Hi Reader

Let me guess what your December looks like...

Shopping, wrapping, meal planning, card writing, coordinating, baking, managing family dynamics—all while running on fumes and wondering why you can't just enjoy "the most wonderful time of the year."

Here's what I need to tell you: The voice in your head is making it worse.

The Invisible Weight You're Carrying

Every time you think "I'm not doing enough" or "I must please everyone," you're adding a 50-pound weight to everything you're already carrying.

When you're racing through Target at 9 PM thinking "I'm such a failure," you're not just shopping—you're carrying inadequacy on top of exhaustion.

That's what steals your joy. The exhaustion isn't just from doing too much. It's from beating yourself up while doing it.

What Changes When You Replace One Thought

Let's say you're doing dishes, and the thought comes: "I'm not doing enough."

Old pattern: You spiral about everything you didn't get to. You feel inadequate. The dishes get done, but you're depleted.

New pattern: You catch it. You replace it: "I'm making intentional progress on what truly matters." Same dishes. 50 fewer pounds of emotional weight. Energy left over.

That's the difference, not in what you do, but in how much suffering you carry while doing it.

The 12 Thoughts Most Likely Stealing Your Joy...

• "I must please everyone," ← Creating 80% of your overextension
• "I'm letting people down," ← Making boundaries impossible
• "I have to do everything perfectly." ← Turning joy into performance
• "I don't have enough time." ← Creating constant panic
• "I shouldn't take a break," ← Leading to burnout

Plus seven additional ways you are adding emotional weight that are just as draining.

But you don't have to live with them.

Join the 12 Days of Mindshifts (Starting Saturday, Dec 14)

Each day from December 12th through Christmas Eve, I'm sending a note to your email as a seasonal reminder to help rewire these patterns while we're experiencing them! It's my gift to you, and all you need to do is put your email in the link by this Saturday.

In your inbox, you'll receive:

✨ One destructive thought (the one stealing your energy)
💡 One empowered reframe (the replacement that lightens your load)
⚡ One 60-second practice (to make it stick)

Just 2-3 minutes a day from December 12-24.

No journaling. No meditation apps. No elaborate rituals. No cost.

​SIGN UP NOW FOR 12 DAYS OF MINDSHIFTS - Starting Saturday, Dec 14.

BTW-If you don't add your name to the list, I won't send the emails because I try not to add to the clutter of your life by showing up where I'm not invited, and this is the first and only time you'll hear about my 12 Days of Mindshift sign-up.

What You'll Gain

💡 Actual relief from overwhelm (root-level change)
🕊️ Permission to be human instead of perfect
⚡ Increase the energy, those thoughts were stealing
💪 Consider adding boundaries without guilt
✨ Enjoy more of a season that feels good, not just looks good

We're not talking about doing more. It's about suffering less while doing what you're already doing. YOU CAN READ MY FULL POST HERE.

What if this holiday could actually feel more peaceful? Not because everything's perfect. But because you stop carrying thoughts that were never yours to take on.

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You actually deserve to enjoy this season of light,

DeShawn

P. S. SIGN UP NOW FOR 12 DAYS OF MINDSHIFTS - Starting Saturday, Dec 14.